Children need to learn to be more resilient

On reading the Hearld Sun on Sunday October 28th 2018, pg.26,  I came across an article by Susie O’Brien and it caused me to ponder the following ………………….

PARENTS are raising a generation of kids with “resilient deficit disorder” who are scared to try new things because they may fail, experts say.

A new book, Raising Resilient Kids, offers practical strategies for raising more independent children, such as letting them have more free play time, carry their own school bags and choose their own friends.

According to one contributor, psychologist Michael Carr-Gregg, children can be taught to be resilient and bounce back from adversity.

“Resilience is not a rare ability. In reality, it can be found in the average individual and it can be learned and developed by virtually anyone,” he says in the book.

He said those with resilience were not without negative thoughts, but had effective coping techniques that helped them effectively navigate through a crisis.

Dr Carr-Gregg said schools and kindergartens, along with parents, contributed to the resilience crisis.

“In kindergarten, childhood games like musical chairs and pass the parcel have been changed so no one loses and everyone gets a prize,” he said.

He wants parents to say no more often and set limits and boundaries.

PARENTS are raising a generation of kids with “resilient deficit disorder” who are scared to try new things because they may fail, experts say.

Dr Carr-Gregg said the word no had “fallen out of fashion with parents, with many opting for a more friendly, egalitarian approach”. He also advocates establishing limits for older children for issues such as sleep, exercise, alcohol and diet.

Wendy Mason, an early learning educator and author, said many children had everything done for them by their parents which meant they “have no autonomy and are not in control of themselves”.

She wants parents to let kids do more things for themselves, such as carrying their own school bags, engaging in imaginative play and making mistakes.

Mother-of-two Melissa Quinn, 34, is keen to develop resilience in her daughter, Amelia, 7, and son, Owen, 6.

She and husband Kevin moved to Packenham Upper on the outskirts of Melbourne to give their children a chance to “grow up away from screens and become outdoor kids”.

“They are very active and climb trees, ride bikes and have adventures,” she said. “They have a lot of freedom which they love.”


Leave a Reply

A note to our visitors

This website has updated its privacy policy in compliance with changes to European Union data protection law, for all members globally. We’ve also updated our Privacy Policy to give you more information about your rights and responsibilities with respect to your privacy and personal information. Please read this to review the updates about which cookies we use and what information we collect on our site. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our updated privacy policy.